My whole life I have been really quick to judge people who get married after a mere 2 or 3 weeks dating someone, even 2 or 3 months. There are girls I have known in my wards, in my classes at school, in pre-marital classes, through mutual friends, in my apartment complexes... basically everywhere... who completely astound me. I cannot believe how quickly they've been able to commit to marrying someone. I have been dating J.D. for 11 months and I know that some of my friends and family at home are questioning my sanity. I would like to see their faces if they talked to the students here at BYU who have both met and married their spouses in a month's time. I have never quite been able to fathom the stupidity of these people.
But today, I was thinking and reflecting... I had an inkling that I wanted to marry J.D. by September. I was pretty sure by October. And although slow to admit it, I was positive by November. Still, we aren't getting married until August. What?
I know people may act like it takes forever to plan a wedding, but I've come to the conclusion that, if I were to really focus on wedding planning, I would need, tops, 2 months to do everything. I've just been dragging my feet a bit and taking my sweet time because I have the sweet time to take.
The conclusion that I've come to is this: I have been too quick to judge. Who am I to say that so-and-so's engagement was wayyy too short and so-and-so's engagement was wayyyy too long? Who am I to say which way they should've done this or that or the other thing? So to all of you out there who I have judged pretty harshly for your haste in the race to get married, I apologize. I have no idea what your story is. Your timing was probably just right.
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